Things to Consider Before Telling Your Partner You’re Pregnant
You’ve missed your period and you might start to have some indication as to why. If you’re sexually active, then it’s no great leap to figure out that you may need to pick up some pregnancy tests, whether or not the thought fills you with dread or hopeful anticipation. But what happens after you get an answer? If you’re positive that you’re pregnant, now might be time to share this news with your partner.
Here are a few things to consider first before you break the news.
What’s Your relationship Status?
If you are in a committed relationship with this individual, or you’ve both been actively trying to get pregnant, then you’re probably good to go when it comes to telling your partner.
If the news is going to be a big shock and you’re not even sure about the future of your relationship status, things get a little harder. Even still, if the relationship is healthy, it’ll be better to tell your partner as soon as possible. A surprise pregnancy is never something to go through alone.
If this isn’t a healthy relationship, and you aren’t really sure if you want to keep the baby or the guy, you might feel tempted to not tell him at all. Unless the individual poses a threat to the health of you and the baby, don’t just up and leave. It’s his right to know, although you ultimately have the last say on your decision.
What if You Both Didn’t Want This?
While all the colourful pregnancy photoshoots and pregnancy reveals look like a load of fun, that’s not the case for every couple. For some women, those two positive lines on the pregnancy test may become their worst nightmare.
If you and your partner didn’t explicitly want a pregnancy, be it now or in the future, then you’re going to need to keep some things in mind when telling your partner the news.
Managing Your Partner’s Reaction
Whether you’re in a stable relationship or not, if you’re not actively trying to get pregnant and you’re both not entirely open to this happening, then you need to be prepared for differing reactions to your big news.
Your partner could be thrilled when they find out you’re pregnant, or they could be angry or scared. The latter feelings could be brought about them being mad that the both of you weren’t more careful, or they could be scared at what this means for the rest of your lives.
Whatever the case may be, you must accept that you’re not in control of your partner’s reactions. You only have control over your own emotions and your response to their emotions. Don’t take any immediate responses on his end too personally.
Making the Big Decision
After you’ve delivered the news to your partner, it’s time to make some big decisions together. Do you keep the baby, or do you not?
Even if you’re telling your husband you’re pregnant, that lifelong commitment and stability between you and your spouse still might not mean you want a baby now or at all, and that’s okay. It’s important that you make the right decision for yourself, together, and ensure that neither party feels pressured to go one way or the other.
Telling your partner you’re pregnant shouldn’t be that thing that stresses you out. Pregnancy by Choice is here for you. Ensure you make an appointment at your nearest centre and one of our professionals will provide you with information that is trusted and medically correct.
Source: Marie Stopes South Africa (Safe Abortion and Post Abortion Family Planning)
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